What exactly is sexuality? According to WebMD, sexuality is: 1. The sum of a person’s sexual behaviors and tendencies, and the strength of such tendencies; 2. One’s degree of sexual attractiveness; or 3. The quality of having sexual functions or implications. But what does that mean?
The sum of a person’s sexual behaviors and tendencies, and the strength of those tendencies, means, according to Wikipedia, the “manner in which humans experience and express their sexuality. This would, presumable, include how you feel about yourself, sexually speaking, and how you show others your sexuality. Do you feel sexy and feminine, or sexy and manly, as the case may be. And, if so, how do you express those feelings/emotions to other people. Do you dress in low cut shirts to show a little breast to attract the beast, or, in the case of men, in shirts with cut out arms and neck to show off all those muscles you have to attract the other beast? Each person expresses their sexuality in different ways. What about shy people, how do they express themselves sexually, maybe by being ‘brave’ and wearing shorts above the knee? Each person is different and each person shows their sexuality in different ways. None are wrong, it is not a test! It is each person expressing themselves in their own way.
What about number 2 – one’s degree of sexual attractiveness – meaning sexual appeal? What really is sexual appeal? Some would say it is the traits of a person making them look physically pleasing and attractive to another person. Of course, what is attractive and physically pleasing to one person may not be to another. Some people are attracted to model thin women, or hunky, muscle bound men! Others are not attracted to those traits in a person in the least. They may be more attracted to a woman of normal weight, or even overweight. Or to men of normal build or to men with a few extra pound, or even a lot of extra pounds. The sexual attraction of one person to another, given human diversity, is really “in the eyes of the beholder”.
So, what about the 3rd definition – the quality of having sexual functions or implications. Everyone has the capability of the function – everyone is equipped with sexual equipment (i.e. penises or breasts, and vaginas). But, is everyone able to function, for example- have sexual desire, arousal, and the ability to complete the sexual act in a satisfactory way to both parties involved in the act. Implication is, of course, a person’s involvement in the sexual act.
Your starting point for your research is above – best wishes in your research for your own sexuality!
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